It can be hard to block out what other people say or think about us.
Sometimes it’s helpful to hear what other people think of us or what we’re doing. A friend can stop us from going down a destructive path when they step up and express love and concern for us, or other people may be able to point out patterns and habits in ourselves that we might not otherwise see.
But the feedback we get about ourselves from others isn’t always kind.
It’s hard to hear someone’s negative opinion about us. It can stir up anger and hurt feelings or lower our own view of ourselves and our worth. And when those opinions are coming at us day in and day out, it’s hard not to be impacted by them.
But the truth is that what other people think of you does not define who you are. It doesn’t tell you anything about yourself. You have worth and value whether or not other people choose to see that.
That negative opinion someone has of you doesn’t mean you’re bad or undeserving of good things. It doesn’t make you less worthy of love, friendship, or happiness.
It’s not necessarily simple to just let go of harsh words and negative opinions, and there are certainly people who will try to make sure you don’t forget what they think of you. Finding your value and holding onto it despite that isn’t always easy; it’s a slow process. But the more you practice it, the easier it gets.
I’ve found it helps to remember that no matter what choices I make, there’s always going to be someone who disagrees with me. No matter what I do, how I look, what I wear, or how I act, there’s always going to be someone out there in the world who doesn’t think I should do things that way.
When all is said and done, I’m the one who has to be happy with my choices. And if I’m happy with my choices, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Life is too short to change myself to fit someone else’s ideal version of me. I want to be MY ideal version of me.
Keep your head up. Keep reminding yourself that you are worthy of good things. Remember that only you know what’s best for you, and that it’s totally okay to pursue the things that make you happy. Someone else’s opinion is just that: an opinion. If you know you’re on the path you want to be on, then you’re already doing great.
If someone else can’t see how wonderful you are, it’s their loss. They’re missing out on a great person.
You are of infinite value and worth. You are doing great. And I believe in you and all you do.