If you're anything like me, you've probably been stuck in the trap of expectations and self hate.
I've felt like I had to live up to the expectations society, parents, peers and even myself had set for me. I spent a lot of time hating myself and wishing I was someone else. I worried so much about what I wasn't and I never stopped and thought about everything that I am.
In my mind, I wasn't smart enough, pretty enough, cool enough, just wasn't enough in general. I dug myself into a hole of self hate I felt like I could never escape. Not even the most genuine compliments helped me to feel like I was enough.
Next time you start to think about every thing you are not, try to remember everything you are. It won't happen overnight, but what you and I have to realize is we all have something to offer. You have something to offer and the world would not be the same without you. You are enough. Every part that makes you you is important to who you are, and what makes you so valuable.
Once I realized that I was enough, I started to love myself again. I started to see that I was kind, creative, and important. Instead of putting myself down, I decided to lift myself up. I know some days this concept is much easier said than done and I still catch myself slipping into negative thought patterns and falling into that self hate trap. Some days are better than others and life is not perfect.
Even the most confident have bad days, but just try to remember one key to loving yourself is seeing yourself for who you really are and who you really are is enough. Remember that you have more to offer than self doubt and expectations, you have value and nothing can take that away from you.