One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as I’m recovering is that my journey is uniquely my own.
Many times, I’ve found myself worried that people might think poorly of me because I’m not doing everything my peers are doing or because I’ve had to put some of my goals on hold while I recover. I become preoccupied wondering what others might think when I can’t live up to their expectations or when it doesn’t feel like I’m recovering fast enough. And I’ve even had people who were supposed to be there to support me say, “Why aren’t you better yet? Are you even trying to get better?”
And all of that can be really hard to think about or hear from others when all I’m trying to do is make it through the day in one piece.
But regardless of what anyone else might think, the fact stands that each of us has our own journey to live out. And our journey is only for us. That doesn’t mean it might not impact or affect other lives along the way, but the things we experience for ourselves, within ourselves, are uniquely our own.
That means despite judgments we or anyone else may pass on ourselves, and despite the doubt or fear or confusion we feel, our journey is for us. And what we do along to the way, whether it’s to survive or thrive or heal, is up to us. No one else can decide for us what will be best for us and what will help us most. Other people may not understand why we’re doing what we do, but that doesn’t make it less valid, and that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong thing to do. It just means that their journey is different than ours. And that’s okay.
It’s hard not to wonder what other people think, or to want to make them happy by fulfilling the expectations they have for us. But that doesn’t change the fact that we’re the ones who know ourselves best. We’re the ones who know what we need and what will work best for us right now, in this moment. And that holds true no matter what other people might think. They’re not the ones who are on your journey- only you can live that out.
At the end of the day, all you can do is what’s right for you. And try not to worry if other people don’t understand or don’t agree- it’s not their journey anyway.