Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to just call it quits.
To give up. To stop fighting. To crawl under a blanket and hide from the world forever.
And sure, maybe that would be easier. But you didn’t come this far to only come this far.
You’ve come a long way. Even on the days when it doesn’t feel like it or when you need someone else to remind you of that, you’ve still come an incredibly long way.
Every step counts. And it may not feel like it as you’re taking each one, but before you know it, you’ll look back and realize just how many of those little steps there are, and how far they’ve taken you.
There have probably been plenty of times when you could have decided that enough was enough and given up.
But you didn’t. You're still here, you're still fighting.
And that's amazing.
Every day might feel like a battle, but just by showing up to fight it, you’re already winning. And if you’ve made it this far, why give up when you’re already coming out ahead just by getting here? Even if you have to take it day by day, each day will bring you a little closer to where you want to be.
So don’t give up now. Don’t let go just yet. You’ve come so far, and you can go even farther.
If it’s going to take support to get there, reach out to someone you trust to help you. If you need a little motivation, put a few inspirational quotes where you’ll be sure to see them throughout your day. On days when you’re really struggling, treat yourself kindly and go easy on yourself- you’re still doing your best.
But whatever you do, don’t give up.
After all, you didn’t come this far to only come this far.
It can be hard to block out what other people say or think about us.
Sometimes it’s helpful to hear what other people think of us or what we’re doing. A friend can stop us from going down a destructive path when they step up and express love and concern for us, or other people may be able to point out patterns and habits in ourselves that we might not otherwise see.
But the feedback we get about ourselves from others isn’t always kind.
It’s hard to hear someone’s negative opinion about us. It can stir up anger and hurt feelings or lower our own view of ourselves and our worth. And when those opinions are coming at us day in and day out, it’s hard not to be impacted by them.
But the truth is that what other people think of you does not define who you are. It doesn’t tell you anything about yourself. You have worth and value whether or not other people choose to see that.
That negative opinion someone has of you doesn’t mean you’re bad or undeserving of good things. It doesn’t make you less worthy of love, friendship, or happiness.
It’s not necessarily simple to just let go of harsh words and negative opinions, and there are certainly people who will try to make sure you don’t forget what they think of you. Finding your value and holding onto it despite that isn’t always easy; it’s a slow process. But the more you practice it, the easier it gets.
I’ve found it helps to remember that no matter what choices I make, there’s always going to be someone who disagrees with me. No matter what I do, how I look, what I wear, or how I act, there’s always going to be someone out there in the world who doesn’t think I should do things that way.
When all is said and done, I’m the one who has to be happy with my choices. And if I’m happy with my choices, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Life is too short to change myself to fit someone else’s ideal version of me. I want to be MY ideal version of me.
Keep your head up. Keep reminding yourself that you are worthy of good things. Remember that only you know what’s best for you, and that it’s totally okay to pursue the things that make you happy. Someone else’s opinion is just that: an opinion. If you know you’re on the path you want to be on, then you’re already doing great.
If someone else can’t see how wonderful you are, it’s their loss. They’re missing out on a great person.
You are of infinite value and worth. You are doing great. And I believe in you and all you do.
Lately, I’ve come across a lot of stories about everyday heroes- those people who stop to rescue a kitten who fell down a storm drain, or the firefighter who saved a precious family heirloom from a burning house, or a community that banded together to help their neighbor in need.
And sometimes, when I see those heroic acts, I can’t help but think, “That could never be me. I’m not brave or strong or smart enough to do that.”
But people don’t have to commit incredible acts of bravery or pull off impossible feats to be considered heroes, to be important, or to change the world- or even just one person’s world- for the better.
There is bravery in going to bed feeling hopeless, but still rising the next day to go to work or class or even just to get a glass of water before crawling back under the covers.
There is perseverance and inspiration to be found in those who fight their inner demons every day, but don’t let it harden their hearts so much that they won’t smile at a friend or send someone a message of love and encouragement.
There is endurance and strength when all you want to do is break down and cry, but you still manage to handle all your responsibilities for the day.
For all you do, you are a hero, too.
You’re a hero when you push through your own pain to brighten a friend’s day. You’re a hero when you pick yourself up and keep moving forward even when you think you can’t go on. You’re a hero when you seek out help and support when you’re feeling down. You’re a hero by virtue of the strength you show when, no matter how many bad days you’ve had, you still manage to find a way to smile or laugh.
You are brave, strong, and perseverant. No matter how big or scary or difficult your obstacles have seemed- or still seem- you have pushed through them, and you continue to move forward.
Whatever you’re doing, you’re doing your best, and that’s what matters. You don’t need to save the world or even just save the day to be a hero- you’re a hero because you haven’t given up. And you should be so proud of yourself.
You’re doing great. You’re a true hero.
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned as I’m recovering is that my journey is uniquely my own.
Many times, I’ve found myself worried that people might think poorly of me because I’m not doing everything my peers are doing or because I’ve had to put some of my goals on hold while I recover. I become preoccupied wondering what others might think when I can’t live up to their expectations or when it doesn’t feel like I’m recovering fast enough. And I’ve even had people who were supposed to be there to support me say, “Why aren’t you better yet? Are you even trying to get better?”
And all of that can be really hard to think about or hear from others when all I’m trying to do is make it through the day in one piece.
But regardless of what anyone else might think, the fact stands that each of us has our own journey to live out. And our journey is only for us. That doesn’t mean it might not impact or affect other lives along the way, but the things we experience for ourselves, within ourselves, are uniquely our own.
That means despite judgments we or anyone else may pass on ourselves, and despite the doubt or fear or confusion we feel, our journey is for us. And what we do along to the way, whether it’s to survive or thrive or heal, is up to us. No one else can decide for us what will be best for us and what will help us most. Other people may not understand why we’re doing what we do, but that doesn’t make it less valid, and that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong thing to do. It just means that their journey is different than ours. And that’s okay.
It’s hard not to wonder what other people think, or to want to make them happy by fulfilling the expectations they have for us. But that doesn’t change the fact that we’re the ones who know ourselves best. We’re the ones who know what we need and what will work best for us right now, in this moment. And that holds true no matter what other people might think. They’re not the ones who are on your journey- only you can live that out.
At the end of the day, all you can do is what’s right for you. And try not to worry if other people don’t understand or don’t agree- it’s not their journey anyway.
Maybe you’re having a rough day, or a rough week, or a rough month. Or maybe whatever difficulties you’re dealing with have been going on so long it’s starting to feel like this is just a rough life.
When things get rough, sometimes it feels like the only way to really make things right is to start from the beginning. But since we can’t go back, we can only wait for that moment where we’ll have a new beginning to try again, right?
Well, the good news is this: you don’t have to wait until tomorrow, or next week, or next month to get your fresh start.
You can start anew right now.
Every moment is new. As you read these words, new moments continue to form and flourish. And that means you have the chance to seize one of them and use it as your chance to start all over again.
Life isn’t always going to be simple; maybe it will even take a lot of moments before you really feel like you’ve found your fresh beginning. But those moments are yours to do what you need to do to start again or begin something new or try something you’ve never done before.
Every moment is your fresh beginning, your new chance to start again. Every moment is your opportunity to do what puts you on the path that you want to be on.
Today is still full of moments that can serve as a fresh beginning. And maybe one of them will be the one you look back on as the best beginning you’ve ever had.